WICHITA, Kan. (KAKE) - "She was crying, and then my teacher was running out there."

That was the voice of the 7-year-old boy who went through one of the scariest things imaginable Thursday.

Police say 21-year-old Manasseh Ward kidnapped him and his sister while they walked to school. Ward is accused of then sexually assaulting the girl.

Wichita Public Schools Safety Officer Terri Moses said tragedies like that are a reminder to talk to your kids about safety, but what you think is good advice, might not be.

"Historically, we've used the term stranger danger. and if you go to the national exploited missing child site, we really don't want to use that," Moses said.

Moses says teaching kids "stranger danger" usually makes things worse because most people kids meet are actually good.

"There are people that are good that are strangers," Moses said. "Police officers, security and so what we want to talk to children about are people who are doing things that make you feel uncomfortable."

Moses said you should focus on teaching kids about a person's behavior rather than if they're familiar. Meaning people do things that make them uncomfortable, like offering rides, asking if they want to go pet their dog, offering candy, and so on.

Moses said it's also important to teach your kids that sometimes, it's ok to do things they would normally get in trouble for.

"One of the things that we always talk to students about is hey, don't yell, don't kick, don't run but in this case, we tell students, okay, it's okay to yell, kick and run, if somebody approaches you and makes you feel uncomfortable."

Thursday's kidnapping is a perfect example of her advice, because when it comes to "stranger danger", the boy tells us the car that picked them up wasn't unfamiliar at all.

"Almost every single day," the boy said, when we asked if he'd seen that car before. 

Moses says she understands these conversations are sometimes extremely difficult to have with your kids, but are so important she says if you don't know where to start.

There are lots of resources available like Common Sense Media.