Wife of arrested Sedgwick County Sheriff's deputy speaks out

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WICHITA, Kan. (KAKE) -

Melanie Paredes has spent the last few years of her life living in fear.

She said her husband, Raymond Paredes, a Sedgwick County Sheriff's deputy, has both emotionally and physically abused her.

"The man I was with for 7 years just took a turn on me,” Melanie said.

Raymond was arrested twice on Wednesday for domestic abuse related charges.

"Which is knowingly or recklessly causing bodily harm to a person to whom the offender is involved or has been involved in a dating relationship or a family or a household member,” Col. Greg Pollock said in a Wednesday news conference.

"It was a lot worse than it had been in the past as far as fearing for my life,” Melanie said.

The couple has been together since Melanie was 16-years-old.

While she didn't want to go into details but she said over the years, the abuse has come in many forms.

"Only man I ever knew. Grew, grew with. So, for it to come to what it came to, I was just at that point I was done. I couldn't anymore emotionally, physically. My body was tired. My mind was tired,” Melanie said.

According to the National Center for Women and Policing, domestic violence is 2-4 times more common among police families than American families in general.

The group also said victims often fear calling the police, because they know the case will be handled by officers who are colleagues and/or friends of their abuser.

"The scariest feeling is to know your husband is the law. He doesn't make it. He's supposed to enforce it. But when he breaks it, what do you do?” Melanie said.

Now Melanie just hopes that by sharing her story, it will prevent it from happening to another law enforcement spouse.

"And tell them that just because he's the law doesn't make it ok,” Melanie said.

We tried but were unable to contact Raymond Paredes for comment. He's been with the Sheriff's Office for three years and has been put on administrative suspension while they investigate.

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