Are each of these statements usually true or usually false?
Throughout the day, I give my child choices, instead of giving orders.
Our house is a gathering place for the neighborhood kids.
My children have daily chores.
My kids are in bed at about the same time every night.
My kids use "please" and "thank you" when they talk to me.
I use "please and "thank you" when I talk to my kids.
My instructions tend to be brief and specific.
I don't give in to a child's nagging, whining and pleading.
We have specific family rules.
When I say it I mean it. My kids know this and they do as I ask.
My kids clean up their own messes.
Our family eats dinner together.
I trust my children.
I am consistent in the things that I say "no" or "yes" to.
When a problem occurs, we address it, and then it's over.
I compliment my children twice as often as I criticize them.
I'm involved in PTA or other school activities.
The last words I say to my children at night are pleasant and loving.
I learn about parenting by reading books and articles or by taking classes.
The best answer to each of these questions is "usually true". Take some time to ponder any statement to which you have answered "usually false". Ask yourself why the preferred answer is true. Determine what changes you can make in your family to better reflect the concepts presented in each statement.
Source: Elizabeth Pantley